KEY THINGS TO REMEMBER
Porn use isn’t just about sex drive; it can function as a method of coping with stress, loneliness, tiredness, relationship difficulties or past experiences.
Many men feel deep-rooted shame due to the nature or amount of their porn use and therefore, initially, may not fully disclose everything.
Encouraging men to focus on a bigger vision and take on some new challenges can be helpful; “Anyone who has been stealing must steal no longer, but must work, doing something useful with their own hands, that they may have something to share with those in need.” Ephesians 4:28.
TOP 3 RESOURCES
Click to Kick is Naked Truth’s 8-week online recovery course for those wanting to overcome dependency on porn. It’s been developed by one of the UK’s leading experts in sex and porn addiction and helps to give participants a better understanding of their addiction, as well as providing practical steps to freedom. It also provides users with support and friendship from those who are in a similar position.
CAPTURED BY A BETTER VISION, TIM CHESTER
Chester’s book focuses on exposing the false promise of porn whilst redirecting the reader to the true promises of God and offers advice on how to live a new life with freedom and integrity.
CONFRONTING PORN, PAULA HALL
Confronting Porn offers a biblical and practical approach to the issue of porn, offering hope and support for individuals struggling with porn and for those who want to help them. The book can serve as a workbook for those on a journey to freedom and provides various practical exercises.
PornHelp’s mission is to help people who want to stop using porn to take the first step. They offer comprehensive, unbiased and regularly updated information covering the different options available for quitting porn. This is a fantastic site for those who are unsure of the options available to them.
The ‘Kick Start Recovery Programme’ which can be downloaded on this website is a free UK resource written by Paula Hall and has been created to offer the many thousands of people who struggle with sex and pornography addiction with a reliable and tested self help solution.
Paula is a UKCP Accredited Sexual and Relationship Psychotherapist who specialises in helping people affected by sex addiction and porn addiction. Her site offers information and video resources explaining sex and porn addiction alongside information on individual, partner and couple services that can be provided via video conferencing. You’ll find free advice message boards which are run by people in recovery as well as therapists who can work with individuals.
This is a christian website with testimonies and articles providing and signposting practical help for men and women to break free from porn addiction.
This educational website presents a step-by-step programme for overcoming addictive sexual behaviour based on cognitive behavioural therapy.
It may be necessary for some men to seek professional help and they can do so from the Association of Christian Counsellors. Please note that not all counsellors registered on this site have had training in or experience with dealing with pornography addiction so do check before committing to therapy.
EVERY MAN’S BATTLE, STEPHEN ARTERBURN
Whilst recognising the constant struggle some men have with sexual temptation, this book encourages them to confront the temptation in order to gain victory over it and includes a comprehensive workbook to aid recovery.
WIRED FOR INTIMACY, WILLIAM STRUTHERS
Written by a Christian neuroscientist and researcher, this book explores porn scientifically, practically and theologically and shows how sexual longings can actually propel single and married men toward holiness.
PURE EYES: A MAN’S GUIDE TO SEXUAL INTEGRITY, CRAIG GROSS
This book, written by the founder of XXXchurch, seeks to help men understand the true purpose of sex and acknowledges that, whether single or married, sexual temptation does not have to rule our lives.
WORTHY OF HER TRUST, STEPHEN ARTERBURN AND JASON B. MARTINKUS
Addressing the challenge of regaining a wife’s trust after revelations of sexual addiction, this book includes Martinkus’ own story of repairing his marriage and offers exercises and tools rooted in counselling principles to help couples rebuild and strengthen their marriage.
SEXUAL DETOX: A GUIDE FOR GUYS WHO ARE SICK OF PORN, TIM CHALLIES
This short and easy-to-read book focuses on the need to be “reset” by the one who created sex and provides an in-depth discussion of the sexual sin that prevents men from moving forward into God’s purposes.
SURFING FOR GOD, MICHAEL CUSICK
This book uses scripture alongside examples of the author’s own life, and his counselling experience, to show how the pursuit of empty pleasure is really a search for the heart’s deepest desire and helps readers to understand how porn struggles begin, how to prevent them and how to overcome them.
WHEN GOOD MEN ARE TEMPTED, BILL PERKINS
This book details a plan that shows men how to achieve sexual purity that will preserve the sanctity of their marriages, the security of their families, the vitality of their walks with God and the strength of their relationships with their brothers in Christ.
OUT OF THE DEPTHS OF SEXUAL SIN, STEVE GALLAGHER
This book is the hope-filled story of a man who courageously battled his way out of deep darkness to pioneer Pure Life Ministries - the first ministry in the world to help men find freedom from sexual sin.
BATTLES MEN FACE, GREGORY L. JANTZ
This book tackles various issues that men may face such as anger, emotional withdrawal and competition and tackles the issue of porn and sex by giving practical steps to overcome unhealthy patterns. It encourages men to build on positive experiences and to ask for help from others.